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You’re Only As Good As Your Team

The Road to the Bag is Definitely Tied to Your Team and the Company You Keep…

Diddy.

Coming off of vending in Chicago the last weekend of February, it feels necessary to discuss the importance of having a solid team.

Listen, I am a 30 year African American female entrepreneur and what I can tell you without any doubt is that I wouldn’t be where I am or doing any amount of what I’m able to do without my team and support system. My support system consists of my family and friends but my team involves my staffed employees.

Me and the Team, Brianna and Jooae, vending at Chicago Planner Conference.

I was one year into business when I realized that I needed help. Business was booming at a consistent pace and I was beyond overwhelmed. On average, I was working 16-18 hours and taking care of a baby in between. Exhaustion doesn’t even begin to describe the state I was in. I was still working the business out of my home so it was important for me to find someone that would be comfortable in my home and that I could be comfortable being that close to. Then it dawned on me, stay at home mom.

I jumped on the Nextdoor app and posted a brief description of the position I was offering. It read a little something like this:

May 3, 2018 When I made my first job posting.

This is when I received a message from Jooae. Our first meeting was so easy that I didn’t hold any other interviews, it felt good and I knew she was the perfect match to my crazy. She’s calm, reserved and focused, just what I needed. The icing on the cake was she lived two houses down so transit was not a problem. That following week, Jooae started to work and within 2 months, my sales increased 30%.

After a year of me and Jooae working out of my dining room, I decided it was time to start looking for an office space. I was nervous, scared to pay someone rent, worried about credit and everything in between. Needless to say I didn’t feel it would happen any time soon but you know when you throw things out into the atmosphere, God starts to position you. That’s exactly what happened to me. It took less than 3 months to find a space and get this, there was no credit check, the rent was affordable and utilities were included! GOD! Okay.

We did our best to work our normal hours but it became apparent pretty quickly we needed more time and more hands. I leaned on the help of family and friends as long as I could until one night a customer/friend came to help and unbeknownst to me brought her adult and teenage daughters with her. We worked until midnight and the entire time I felt a nudge that her oldest daughter could use a part time job and possibly even some mentorship. So as they were getting in the car, I blurted out “Do you need a part time job. If so, call me!” I received a call the next day and asked her to come in so we could discuss everything. She already had one job she was working at so it was understood that the position would only be on her off days. That quickly changed.

Brianna became my right hand. She was eager and willing to do the work that frankly I had grown tired of doing. I wanted to focus more on engagement and creating content and designing more products. Packing orders was no longer my calling and she filled the position with ease. Brianna became instantly like a little sister and I realized I was being called to teach her and show her all that the business entails. Daily she makes me so honored to have her working with Jooae and I. And yes, our sales increased again over 30%.

Because I was obedient and did not concern myself with the money and focused on growth and sustaining the business, I have been blessed with two amazing team mates that understand the vision and fully support it. I remember praying this prayer to God about the business as a whole,

“Lord, I don’t want anything or anyone that will cause me grief or hassle. If I’m meant to hire more people or do more things send them my way and let it be easy so that I will know.”

Amen.
Because the team and I were busy setting up the vending table, my cousin and friends stepped in and set up our sponsored table. Look at how gorgeous it turned out!

In 3 short years, by having a team, that little dream of Goldmine & Coco has quadrupled in sales. We’re now in discussion about seeking a bigger office space, teaching classes and even hosting community events. None of these ideas would have been possible without my girls. I remember the moment I realized that because of them, the business went from low 4 figures a month to high 5 figures in as little as a year and a half. With this realization, I’m excited about the possibility of hiring more women and building my very own Fempire.

So here’s my advice, if you’re in a position where you can hire help, do so. Don’t be hesitant because you’re worried about the money, the funds will come. Focus more on the work and less on the payday. When you do find help, treat them well. Do right by those that do right by you. Loosen your grip and allow them to flourish. You’d be amazed at the ideas and strategies that they come up with. I’m blessed to be in a position to bless and I owe a portion of that to them.

Until Next Time,

xoxo Fe.

And as my old manager, Natasha, used to say,

T. E. A. M.

Together

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The Importance of Alone Time

Sis, when is the last time you were alone? And I mean really alone to do whatever made you feel good. Until this weekend, it had been months for me! Although it was unplanned, it was right on time.

“Spending time alone in your own company reinforces your self-worth and is often the number-one way to replenish your resilience reserves.”

Sam Owen

Depletion

de·ple·tion/dəˈplēSH(ə)n

  1. reduction in the number or quantity of something.

Have you ever ran out of money to pay bills or felt completely exhausted at the end of a workout? That’s what depletion is like, you’re simply running out. When you’re a go getter, depletion can come often. Most days you’re running 150 mph with little to no breaks. Often times, you may even forget to eat. I hear you, I see you, I am YOU!

That’s why this weekend was so amazing for me! Saturday morning I was not feeling great at all. It’s usually the first sign that I’ve worked myself into the ground and need to rest. Between that and this unstable weather, Saturday was not looking too grand. My son’s first tournament game in basketball was in an hour and of course I had to be in attendance. Sometimes even the smallest act of obedience will yield a great reward.

I’m so glad that I showed up! As usual, My Mother in Love was there and she has been dedicating time to spend with the kids on the weekends lately which has been great because I’m ALWAYS working. We didn’t plan for her to take them ahead of time so you can imagine my excitement when she offered to take them with her after the game! It took everything for me not to dance right in the middle of the basketball court lol.

Listen, your girl loves her kids BUT your girl also needed a B-R-E-A-K!.

So what did I do? First I cleaned my house. It felt so good to be in silence and clean. As I was cleaning the house, I also began to feel lighter as far as the clutter in my mind. One less task! Whoo hoo!

Then I left the house and went to the Container Store because if you’re a planner girl with a productivity and organization obsession, CS is your spot! I purchased some bathroom vanity pieces, a jewelry organizer (because my Kendra Scott obsession is REAL) and a shoe rack. I made a conscious effort to purchase FOR ME! So often I’m swiping left and right for my spouse and kids, that I have to be reminded by my friends to do something for myself.

I left Container Store and swung by Pier1, what a treat! They’re closing several stores and I was able to snag their big 3 wick candles for $5 each! They smell so yummy! Sis, get to Pier1. The end.

Finally, I ended up at Sephora. We’re not even going to have that conversation becaaauuusse, make up 🤷🏾‍♀️. My final destination was to see the new movie, The Photograph, by Issa Rae. It was soooo good! I ate nachos and cried at the end. It was the perfect ending to my day.

“Solitude is where I place my chaos to rest and awaken my inner peace” ~ Nikki Rowe

Let me ask you, when is the last time you were alone and able to do whatever brought you peace? When’s the last time, you threw your phone in your purse and enjoyed the moment? The last time you stopped and smiled at strangers, took a deep breathe, didn’t constantly check the time on your watch or phone to make sure you weren’t late to someone’s event? I’m 99% sure those questions may have just made a light bulb go off in your head saying, “OMG! I need to be alone!” Don’t be afraid to say to yourself, “I need space.” There’s beauty in realizing that you need restoration and your resources are depleted. You can not and will not stay the course, if your resources are dried up! When looking at your plans this week, create some time for yourself that is solely for you to recharge and do what makes you happy. Don’t worry about anyone else’s agenda, they’ll be there when you return.

Until Next Time,

XOXO

It’s Time to Start, No Excuses

Hey Gem! I’m Going to Talk to You Today About the Art of Starting.

Are you stuck in between a rock and a hard place? Do you have the desire to do something but you been sitting on your hands scared of the outcome? Today I am talking to you! You, my dear gem, have to get off your behind and get to work. Someone out there needs your vision to fulfill their destiny.

In 2017, I was LOST.

I had recently given birth to my daughter and was on a maternity leave from a job that I was growing to resent on a daily basis due to the structural changes that were taking place. I was stuck with the decision of going back to work and being miserable or finding a different and hopefully better route. 3 years later, I’m sitting at my computer, it’s 7:05 in the morning on a Sunday and I am SO HAPPY to be in a position to write this blog post to you.

Starting is scary, hard and difficult but the end result is so incredibly worth it. At this stage in the game with the current climate of the world as a whole, you need to do what you love. So why aren’t you starting? Well, if you’re anything like me three years ago, the main reason is because you are scared and you don’t want to lose your security blanket. Your job, your spouse, your friends, family etc is in essence your security net. You’ve worked hard to build and maintain these relationships and you’re afraid that if you do what you’re passionate about those things or people will not support you. You’re afraid of being left behind. The irony here is that by pursuing your God-given purpose, you can only be pushed ahead never behind.

I remember sitting at home worrying about how to help provide for my family and not miss a beat. The moment I made the exact decision to be obedient to the calling that was on my life, we’ve never missed a meal, never felt like we were going to lose a home or a car and never felt like we were suffering. God provides. That day was May 12, 2017.

I made this post yesterday that I’m going to share with you here.

This is Your Friendly Saturday Reminder that 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐈𝐬 𝐋𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬. ⁣

You Are Equipped with Every Tool Needed to Fulfill Your God-Given Purpose. ⁣

God Will Place Mentors, Educators, Investors and Every Single Thing Needed to Elevate You to the Next Level. ⁣

•Choose Obedience. ⁣
•Choose to do the Necessary Work Over Sleep. ⁣
•Focus On the End Game Result Instead of Instant Gratification. ⁣
•When You “Make It” Keep Working Like You Never Had It. ⁣
•Stay Hungry. Stay Grateful. Stay Passionate. ⁣
•You Are Your Biggest Cheerleader & Your Biggest Critic. ⁣
•Be Mindful & Consciously Aware that Every Decision is A Choice that Will Propel You or Keep You Stagnant. ⁣
•Get Around Winners! Latch On To Them & Gain Wisdom. ⁣

…And When All Else Fails, Celebrate the Fact that You Had Enough Courage to Try. ⁣

The purpose of the post was to encourage you to try. Often times, we become so focused on everything being perfect and everyone applauding our efforts that we forget to at minimum, try. Who says you don’t have the ability to write out a business plan or just write down the goal? Who says you’re incapable of selling yourself and creating the life you envisioned for yourself? Who says that one person can have a grand life and you can’t?

NO ONE.

You are your own worst enemy. Remove the idea that someone has to approve your dream in order for you to pursue it. When I started G&C, I didn’t care who approved my efforts, I cared about feeding my children and waking up to do something I loved every single day. That’s what mattered most to me.

I surrendered to God’s purpose for my life. I was called to lead, to inspire and to be an example of what it looks like when you walk in total obedience. Many may ask, what does obedience look like?

Obedience starts with discipline. If you tend to lean on the side of rebellion, I encourage you to develop a routine. If you’re working in Corporate America, wake up an hour earlier than you normally do everyday and dedicate that one hour to your dreams. Commit to yourself that you will not create excuses nor complain. Tell yourself, neither is an option while you’re building the life you desire. Understand that it will be hard! I want you to find a mentor once you’re all in, wait until then because you don’t want to waste their time and miss your opportunity. Every time you consider taking an extended nap, decide to commit that time to your goals. What I’m saying to you may seem simplistic while reading but takes a lot more effort and discipline than you think. Here’s the thing, you can do it. You can do any and everything that you set your mind to do. No one is holding you back but you. In 2020, excuses are unacceptable. You’re either doing the work or moving out of the way. Make a choice today. Stop waiting, time definitely isn’t.

Until Next Time,

XOXO

My Top 10 Recommended Reads for 2020

Reading is Fundamental.

Happy 2020!!! Do you have >read more< on your 2020 goals list like me? Yay, we have something in common!

Today I want to share my 2020 MUST READ list. Some books are repetitive because they keep me motivated and focused for the new year and others I’ve started on and plan to finish this year. Although I am a college drop out, reading has always been an essential part of my life. Now that I use Audible, I can run through 20 books or more per year with ease. If you’ve been hesitant on trying Audible, use my promo code and try it for yourself here. https://amzn.to/36ahoZ4

So let’s dive into the books. I did my best to narrow my list down to 10 and give you a good range of books to read from Self Help to Inspiration to Business and Money. If you want to check out my full lists of books, you can find all of them in my Amazon Store.

My Top 10 Books to Read in 2020

  1. The Most Powerful Woman in the Room is You by Lydia Fenet
  2. Dear Girls by Ali Wong
  3. You Are A Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero
  4. Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes
  5. The Wealth Cure by Hill Harper
  6. More than Enough by Elaine Welteroth
  7. Becoming by Michelle Obama
  8. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
  9. Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
  10. 100 Days to Brave by Annie F Downs
I Challenge You to Read at Least 3 off of This List and Come Back and Comment Your Thoughts! Until Next Time Gem! XOXO.

Goal Setting: Why Is It Important?

Featured Here: Goldmine & Coco 2020 Goals Journal. Order at http://www.goldmineandcoco.com

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible. 

So Why Set Goals?

Goal setting can be one of the most important things you ever do in your life. Why? Because you are literally putting pen to paper and writing down what you once felt was impossible how you will make it possible. If you’re like me then you’ve got some BIG DREAMS and in order to accomplish those dreams you need to make the intangible, tangible. I ALWAYS start with the end game in mind because I was taught how you start is how you’ll finish.

Wondering How to Start?


This is my area of expertise. I realize that I am great at starting anything I set out to do because I understand that I can perfect what I’m working on as I go. When you decide to sit down and focus on your goals, the first thing you need is pen and paper, a scratch pad if you will.

  • Write Out Your Ultimate Goals.
    • These goals can be broken down by timeline and also in order of importance. Some people like to write out 5 year goals, 10 years and so on. I personally prefer to write down my yearly goals, that is where I start.
  • Map out a very clear and concise plan for each individual goal.
    • If sorting out your ideas feels a little overwhelming, use a mind map. Mind mapping for me helps me break down the big idea into tiny tangible ideas. I am all about what’s tangible over here. It eliminates that overwhelming feeling and helps me to see that the tasks needed to accomplish the goal aren’t so bad once broken down.
  • Plan the Work, Work the Plan.
    • No Seriously, plan out each day, week and month. I like to start with a large desktop calendar. There is something about going to my desk and having a full view of how my month ahead looks.
    • Next, I use either my wall calendars or my catch all planner. This is where all of my tangible small goals are placed. Did I schedule an important call for Wednesday? Did I remember to circle back on a potential opportunity? Each small little goal leads up to big goal. Every call taken and business meeting scheduled is a potential opportunity to propel me further towards my end game.
New Desk Calendars Will Be Available in Our Luxury Bundle on Black Friday 2020.

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.

Here’s My Favorite Part:

At the end of every month, I circle back to my Goals Journal which is where it all began. I do a thorough evaluation of whether or not I accomplished what I set out to do. My goal is to always accomplish at least 75%. If I didn’t, it shows me that I wasn’t focused enough. This is where I ask myself the tough but necessary questions:

  1. What did I accomplish?
  2. What did I learn?
  3. How can I improve?

Finally, I take a snap shot of myself and journal about everything that transpired that month. Why do I take a photo of myself? There’s several reasons but for the purpose of this post, it’s important to see the transformation throughout your journey. I often find people unwilling to truly see themselves and as they say a picture says a thousand words. Pictures remind me why I’m doing what I’m doing, I am able to see the growth in my appearance, in how I feel about myself and so much more. I am also able to notice when I’ve lost sight of the goal and it enables me to recognize the shift and change gears to get back focused.

I want to encourage you to get laser focused on the goals that you want to accomplish in this upcoming new year. I’ll do my best in sharing my journey to help guide you but you have to be willing to take 100% responsibility for what your future looks like. Lately I’ve been telling myself two things: Fear can not go where you’re headed and If you can see it, you can have it. If you’re having a problem with simply starting, begin with telling yourself that. A year from now you’ll be glad you started today. Until next time….

-Fe

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The Honey Pot Effect

I’ve been hesistant to write this post but The ‘Rona has given ya girl a little bit of free time so now seemed like the perfect opportunity to discuss The Honey Pot Effect.

If you do not know, Beatrice Dixon, CEO of the Honey Pot Co. went viral after a target commerical caused a wide and significant amount of backlash from predominantly white women across America. If you hadn’t seen the commercial, check it out here.

So what’s the problem sis? As most black women, we’re still unsure why wyppo had their panties in a bunch but what we do KNOW is that you will not run up against one of ours without feeling the strength we truly possess. I felt the love we black women have for each other and I’m not Beatrice.

I, too, went and purchased the products that were available at my local target. However, it dawned on me or rather plagued me after some time why black women only seem to rally like this when another race tries us? I don’t mean to ruffle any feathers here but I have to ask the question. Why do we wait until someone outside of our race says that we’re not worthy to show up in the thousands and support one another?

As a black female entrepreneur, I have felt both sides of black women. The side where we can tear each other down without blinking and the other side when we rally behind one another and show strength in numbers. My hope is that our show of support for each other’s dreams will soon become an everyday occurence and not an “only once she goes viral” moment.

For me, black women are like sisters that fight everyday all day behind close doors but as our moms used to tell us, keep in house issues in house so when we step outside of our doors, we present to the world that we’ve got us. In many ways when we absolutely need one another, yes but everyday? Nah, sis.

Have you ever thought why didn’t Bea have that same support prior to the commercial? Or why your cousin that runs a business struggles to find her audience (aka black women) to support her? I know for me, I went through a situation at the beginning of my business that could have broken my spirit and ended my business. My target audience rallied together to shame me vs educate and lift me up and to this day I often feel I’m not as far ahead as I could be if they would’ve chosen to support me. I have even dealt with being told the infamous, “this is why I don’t deal with black businesses” by Black Women!

At what point do we stop and say, I see my sister trying and I’m going to support her efforts. Sis, may not have it all together from day one but how can she get it together if we’re not providing the means, education and guidance to get her there?

I was so excited when I saw the Honey Pot effect I even made a facebook post. My post stated, “Lord please let someone bad mouth me so that I can receive this level of support.” How ridiculous did that sound when you read it? I know right, why would you want to be bad mouthed? Because history has taught me that to get my sister’s attention, someone has to speak ill of me first.

In case I didn’t say it, I purchased both of these products, the wash and the wipes… Babbbbyyyy these products are THE TRUTH!

Let’s change that narrative. During this nationwide “shut-down”, now is the time for you to support your community. Now is the time for you to rally behind one another and make sure we’re all able to eat. Don’t stop supporting small businesses because they are the backbone of America. Make a conscious decision to support black owned businesses. Understand, we all we got! I charge you with the responsibility of doing your part.

And the next time a Bea Dixon comes along, there won’t be a need for a public show of support because we’ve been supporting our sister all along.

Until Next Time,

XOXO Fe.

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My Favorite Fashion Brands and Finds

Who Knew that Taking Content Pictures Would Result in a Multitude of People Asking Where My Outfits Were From, I Sure Didn’t. But Here We Are and Here I Am Giving You ALL of the Deets. Let’s Dive In!

I’m Going to Come Right Out and Tell You, My Favorite Brand in the Whole Wide World is BCBGMaxazria. Honestly, this article can be over now lol.

I LOVE Fashion, I Always Have. You May Not Know This but I Used to Try and Sell Shoes. Lol. Yes, Shoes. I Would Buy Wholesale Shoes and Try to Sell Them via Facebook. Needless to Say that Was Short-lived. If You Hadn’t Noticed, Fashion Plays A Major Role in Fulfilling My Passion with Goldmine & Coco. Each Doll is Carefully Pieced Together with My Designs. I Love the Process! With that Being Said I Guess It Only Makes Sense that Others Want to Know Where Did I Find My Pieces.

I Hate to Be the Bearer of Bad News But I Was Unable to Find You All a Link to the Above Jumpsuit As BCBG No Longer Sells It. My Husband and I Went On A Recent Trip to Miami and I Purchased It Directly From BCBG There. It Was Like I Walked Into Jumpsuit Heaven and Everything Fit. Glory!

This Outfit is the One that Sparked this Blog Post. Can You Guess The Brand? Yessss Queen, That’s It, BCBG! Head’s Up The Top and Pants Combined are Around $450 but It is Worth Every Single Penny In My Opinion. I Saw this Jumpsuit on Sarah Jakes Roberts and Decided I Needed It Too. After Perusing the Comments Section of Her Stylist J.Bolin’s IG Page, I Saw Someone Post It Was From My Fave! I Went To the Site for Several Weeks because Let’s Admit $450 on One Outfit is No Small Ticket but Once the Site Said They Were Running Low In My Size, I Went Into My Stash Before I Could Blink. Admit It, You Have A Stash Too. Get Your Top Here and Your Pants Here.

Let’s Talk Fashion and Why It’s So Important to Me and Should Be to You. Your Fashion Introduces You Before Your Mouth Ever Opens Up. It’s Expressive and Representative of Who You Are at Your Core. You’re In Your Clothes at Least 12 Hours Out of A Day, You Might As Well Be Comfortable With Your Style Choice.

I Use Fashion and Style Daily When Creating Dolls. It’s What Makes Each and Every Doll. The Funny Part About All of This is Recently I Decided I Wanted to Expand the Brand and Create Pieces that We All Could Wear to Match Our Dolls! My First 2 Dresses are Listed and Honey They Are Cute! Grab Yours Here. We’ve Also Listed A Couple of Sweatshirts for the Fall that You Should Definitely Put On Your MUST HAVE List.

Catch the Full Video of Me in Our New Dress On IGTV. Only $35! 😉

Another One of My Favorite Brands is Coins & Connections. Check Them Out Here. If You Ever Catch One of My Instagram Lives, I Talk About Them All of the Time. Again, Your Fashion is Representative of Who You Are and They’re Brand Truly Represents Me As An Entrepreneur. Not To Mention It Is Owned by A Fellow Black Woman.

My Last “Go-To” Site is Nordstrom’s Trunk Club. Let Me Tell You I LOVE Trunk Club. Trunk Club is an Online Styling App. They Partner You with an Actual Stylist that Inquires About What You’re Looking For, What You’d Like to Spend, the Occasion and the Frequency in Which You’d Like to Receive Your Trunk. What I Love Most About the Program is They Allow You to Try On Everything Upfront in the Comfort of Your Home and Send Back What You Don’t Like. You Can Test Out Trunk Club for Yourself with My Link Here.

I Could Go On and On About All of My Favorite Sites but Let’s Face It, Our Attention Span is Simply Not that Long. Lol. I Hope this Answered Some of Your Questions Today, Next Time I Do This, We’ll Talk About Shoes. Until Next Time….

XOXO,

Fe

Elevation Requires Separation…

If You Hadn’t Noticed I Have Been MIA On this Here Blog. Of Course There Are Several Reasons or Rather Excuses that I Could Offer You for My Absence but the Truth Is God Was Removing and Shifting Some Things in My Life to Prepare Me for the Next Level. I Wasn’t In the Right Mental Space to Come and Share My Story. When You’re Going Through It’s Okay to Fall Back.

If I Can Be Very Frank, This Entire 2019 Leading Up to this Point Has Been Exhausting. Yes My Business is Growing, Yes My Kids are Happy, Yes My Husband and I are Still On One Accord… Yes Yes Yes. However, In the Midst of My Yes, I’ve Been Dealing with Continuous Mental Anguish. At the Beginning of the Year, I Chose My Word of the Year to Be Elevate. Giiirrrlll, Ya Girl Has Leveled UP Okkkuurrr. Wayyyy Up I Feel Blessed In Every Area of My Life.

What I Failed to Understand When I Asked For Elevation Was That It Was Going to Require Quite A Bit of Separation. I Went In Head First Thinking I Was Going to Bake the Cake, Be the Cake, Serve the Cake and Eat A Slice Too. So What Type of Separation Did I Experience? I’d Like to Think That I Experienced Different Levels of Separation. I Went Through Phase One, Two and Now Three.

Phase One

Phase One Was the Hardest. It Forced Me to Open My Eyes and See Others through the Lens of Discernment and then to See Myself. Was I Doing All that God had Called Me to Do? Was I Being Responsible with My Gifts and Talents? Was I Too Entitled? Were They Too Entitled? Did I Bite Off More than I Could Chew. SOOO Many Questions On A Daily Basis Left Unanswered. Eventually I Decided that My Only Focus Would Be On How I React to Situations and Not How the Other Side Behaved. It Allowed Me to See Past My Own Frustration and Discern Whether or Not This Was Even A Battle I Was Supposed to Fight. I’ll Let You In A Little Secret:

Silence is Golden.

Phase Two

The Improvement Phase. Phase Two Was More About Me Actively Identifying Habits and Things that I Needed to Separate Myself From. I Placed My Focus Back On My Grind and Slowly Begin to Remove Distractions. When You Are Focused on the Distraction and Not the Calling You Tend to Lose Yourself in All of the Hype. It’s Okay and It’s Normal. The Key is Recognizing that You’re Not Focused and Getting Back on Track. Knowing that Iron Sharpens Iron, I Begin to Link Up with Like Minded Individuals and Proceeded to Win.

Phase Three

Now, Let Me Tell You, Phase Three Has Been Fun. I Stepped into The Month of August with a Fresh New Perspective. I Got a Personal Trainer, Started Doing My Devotionals Again, My Business Reached A New Peak…Do You See Where I’m Going Here? I Was Separated from People, Places and Things that Were Hindering My Growth. These Things Were In My Way of Elevation. Once I Surrendered to the Calling and Said Openly That I Would Go Full Force and Stopped Asking for Permission to be Great, Doors Sprung Open. The Month of July Was the Craziest and Most Eye Opening Month I’ve Had this Year. Because of The Constant Calamity Happening Throughout the Month, I Became Proactive at Putting Systems in Place that Didn’t Make Me Feel Overwhelmed and then I Simply Did the Work.

I Want to Encourage Whoever May Be Reading this Today, to Remain Focused on Your Calling and Purpose. Don’t Get So Wrapped In Your Current Situation that You Forget What Has Already Been Promised To You. Say Boldly and Confidently the Things You Desire and Go After Them. You Can’t Be Afraid to Lose Some Things Along the Way because Fear Can Not Go Where You’re Headed. Be Blessed Love. Until Next Time.

How Saying NO Adds Value…

So Listen….well first Hey Gem Hey!!! Ok back to the subject at hand, recently I have had to learn the power that the word No has and figure out why in the heck have I been so afraid to use it up until this point. The word No has opened me up to a whole new way of life. Lol. No seriously, life has turned around for me quickly with just two letters.

Why are we talking about the word No? Well because so many of us run away from the word for whatever reason without realizing the freedom that it holds. I recently discovered this word because I was flat out drained. I was being pulled in so many different directions that there was no time for me to rest and sit in my own thoughts. I wasn’t even for sure if I was actually producing anything because I was exhausted.

People have different reasons why they say yes all the time. For some it’s because of the money, for others it’s because they’re people pleasers and then there’s also those that have been taught that saying no takes value away from who they are to the people on the receiving end of that no. Those are the people I’m trying to talk to today.

As you all know I have been in business for almost 2 years and within this two year span for approximately 1.5 years, I never said No. I know you’re thinking well how in the heck did you survive?! Truth is, I didn’t. On the outside looking in, it appeared as if business was booming and it was and still is but in my own personal life, I was crashing. I knew that the dreams I had would take some day and night work which was fine I was prepared for that but what I wasn’t prepared for was being constantly asked to do more. Most of the time it was someone needing a little extra attention or needing to feel like they were a priority. Again, fine with that, that’s Customer Service 101. However, it’s when 2-3 become 12-15 all at once that began to way me down. I was having a hard time keeping up with all of the extras on the side and then I discovered, no.

No can come in many forms. There’s No. Then there’s Not Right Now. There’s also Maybe Later. My personal favorite, compromise. I still struggle with saying No but I am the BEST when it comes to a good ole sweet compromise. Let me preface this with saying by compromising you are not giving in. What you are doing is saying I can make this work by doing it my way and then asking the recipient to agree. Other times you’ll simply have to say, “No I can’t love ya mean it. K bye!” And Guess What? THAT’S OKAY!

Listen, no one is going to come and shoot up the place because you told them No. That has been my greatest discovery. I was so afraid to simply say my plate is too full to take on another task yet when I did, the people on the receiving end understood and said Ok. So you mean to tell me there was no screaming and shaming me because I said I was unable to take that on? Yes that’s exactly what I’m telling you. It honestly was almost as if the recipient’s gained a new level of respect for me and then we were able to create a little something I like to call boundaries.

So this is how saying No has added value to my life. When saying the word No, I was able to put some RESPEK ON MY NAME and earn more trust. People trust you when you’re honest about what you can and can not handle. Why? Because you don’t create a space of disappointment. When we take on additional things we can’t handle, we open the doors to letting people down and therefore we do lose some of the value and worth they found in us. When we’re able to be truthful, there’s only room to accept our truth and be okay with that.

I remember not even a week ago, I was in bed and couldn’t move. I was overwhelmed with the idea of saying No to continuous sales. I had recently made a decision that my business was going to become a premiere and elite e-commerce store but in order to do so, I could not continue to always offer a sale. For me, it was crippling because I like most entrepreneurs depend on someone else’s thoughts and opinions to make sure my family eats. So to stand boldly and say I couldn’t always run a sale and ask for some value to be put into the work I do was scary.

To my surprise, no one was shocked or appalled. No one yelled at me and said they’d never shop with me again. You know what they did? They said, “We’re STILL Going to Support You!” Instantly I felt like the value of my business had gone up. It was as if a lightbulb had gone off and I was back in the race.

I say all of that to say this, No is a word worth having in your back pocket at all times. You don’t have to be nasty when you use the word just take a moment to look at what all is on your plate and make a decision according to that. It’s still okay to say Yes, which is what I prefer but if you can’t, you can’t. Learn to trust your inner intuition and put some value on the work that you do. Don’t be afraid because those that trust, love and respect you will still come and they won’t question your decisions.

It took me a minute to write this as you can see it’s pretty lengthy lol. We actually did GemTalk regarding this last week and so this week and next week I think I’m going to take a break. It’s simply not workable with the schedule I have this week and guess what? I’m okay with that.

As always, thank you for taking a moment to stop by and read my open journal. I hope it encourages and inspires you to live in your truth and chase your dreams. Until next time Gem, smooches!

Planner Conference?! Yes You Should Go!

So I’m back from Chicago and you guys I’m on such a natural high! I had to come and tell you all about it and also of course convince you why you should go to one if you’ve been on the fence!

At the Famous Willis Tower (Sears Tower) Sky Deck on 2.14.2019.

Last year, I heard about this amazing Chicago Planner Conference and KNEW that I had to be there if they chose to do it again. Just my luck, they did. From beginning to end, the committee that led this conference exuded levels of excellence that is a rare find. I am literally writing this still in shock because I simply did not anticipate…excellence. Sure I knew I’d have a good time and I knew I’d meet up with my girlfriends and make new friends but it was the DETAIL that caught my attention. So to the women of Chicago Planner Conference, KUDOS TO YOU!

So how did I end up in Chicago and what all happened to make it such an amazing experience?! First, I decided that since the conference was the weekend of Valentine’s, it only made sense that me and my husband go and experience this beautiful city together. Although extremely cold, we had an amazing time. The hotel upgraded our room free of charge because we were also celebrating our 9 year anniversary, the staff was incredibly friendly and attentive and not to mention they also had strawberries and champagne sent to our room. Already I was on cloud 9 and excited for what the city had to offer. We spent the day going from the Sky Deck to Harold’s Chicken, Walking on Magnificent Mile and finishing up at the Auto Show. We opted for dinner at Uncle Julio’s since we couldn’t get a reservation into The Signature Room. Next trip, I promise 😉

Day 2, was equally as amazing as Day 1. After my hubby left, my girls flew in and you guys we had a blast! Planner Conferences aren’t only for you to come and plan because trust me you typically don’t do any planning at all. These conferences are the perfect place and opportunity for you to have a girl’s trip, to meet up with the many faces you see online and of course to get some amazing swag. Day 2 was on Friday, the conference didn’t start until 6:30 that evening which gave us enough time to explore. We went shopping, had lunch at Sugar Factory and sadly for me walked in the cold lol. I’m from the south, I didn’t know what cold was until this past weekend. Never Again, KP! Lol. When I am able to go out of town I like to try and meet up with as many customers of mine as possible. I’m able to hug them, laugh with them and truly say thank you. It means the world to me for them to come out and loan me their time. We managed to host Pizza & Planning in our room that evening and had an awesome time in fellowship!

Conference Day

The Day of the Official Conference is super exciting! There are speakers, swag, table mates, more swag, workshops, swag and did I say it? More swag. Our Keynote Speaker this year was, Amber from DamaskLove. If you didn’t already know this about me, I love me some Amber! She is what I aspire to become. She’s beautiful, witty, funny, talented and simply herself. Her message was amazing because it wasn’t boring or dull. It was in fact exactly what the doctor ordered, fill with cute stories and food for thought moments. She said some things that completely resonated with me in regards to dreaming and planning to execute said dreams. If you ever see this, Thank You Amber. You’re amazing!

Next, we had swag. Y’all the SWAG!! OMG! The SWAG. Now let me say, swag is always a plus and even though I am excited for everything I received, please do not attend a conference for swag only. Your focus should be the experience, meeting new people, networking and gems that you are able to take back home with you. Okay back to the swag, it was so overwhelmingly good we literally COULD NOT TAKE IT! Lol My heart was racing and I thought if they bring out one more amazing item I’m going to lose it. If you watched my live that Sunday then you saw the swag and YOU KNOW, there was no room for disappointments.

We also did workshops and I loved the way they broke out the workshops into rooms which gave people the opportunity to really listen in on what was being said and to share their thoughts. The workshops were GREAT! I attended the Self Care Workshop with Jessica Chung. Let me tell you, if you can get to anything, anywhere with Jessica, GO! Her energy is so contagious and she is 100% authentic, of course we hit it off.

Jessica Chung & I after her Self Care class.

As the day continued and things begin to wind down, we had a rest period from 6-8pm and came back for more laughter and more fun. There were more workshops and also KARAOKE NIGHT!! Whoop Whoop! Karaoke was led by the BEAUTIFUL Lhey of MommyLhey Designs whose talent far expands that of just a shop owner. She’s a wife, mom, girl boss, singer, artist and kick ass dancer. Work it Lhey! She’s also one of the sweetest souls I’ve ever met. Needless to say, we had a grand time! I performed Cardi B – Money and would do it all over again if I could lol.

This conference was surely one to remember. From meeting Amber of DamaskLove, sitting beside and chatting it up with Belinda Selene, meeting some amazing women that are shop owners, customers and now friends and we of course can’t forget the amazing men that were there as well; Heeeyyyy Cain! I’m so grateful to have simply been in the same space with all of these amazing human beings. If I haven’t convinced you by now why you should attend a Planner Conference and more specifically this one, well Gem, I can’t help you. However, If I have sparked your interest, make sure you mark it on your calendar. Decide to take that leap of Faith and don’t be afraid to travel alone. Once you get there it’ll feel like you’ve finally found your tribe. I look forward to meeting all of you one day sooner than later at one of these conferences and don’t forget to say Hi!

This Week On #GemTalk, we’re going to continue the conversation about Planner Conferences. We’ll discuss how much they cost, what you should look forward to, why you should go, who you’re going to see and much more. Join me there this Thursday at 7pm CST! Smooches!